Lets start at the beginning...
The beginning of something new. My life and renewal of what was lost. In 2006 I lost such a vital piece of myself. My ability to BE myself. I sacrificed everything. Family, friends, etc. Just to be with someone that at the time disguised obessiveness in a nice pretty package of what I thought was true love..... Thats what I get for thinking.
Having recovered from a relationship with a man that was in the military. And also someone I had faced some of the hardest moments of wondering...waiting... and more waiting. During my 3 year relationship with this man we had fought time, distance and catastophe (Hurricane Katrina). Ultimately those three things were our demise. Not mistrust, infidelity and lies. Life just happened. Our paths seperated and we moved on. Kind of.
So imagine my thinking when I met my biggest mistake (oops I meant my soon to be ex-husband) enters my life. Here's a man that is right in front of me. He's with me everyday. We have dates and moments. We have time together. This must be right. Right?
When I married ^&E#&$%^ in 2010, I really should have paid attention to what was really happening. He wasn't protecting me from anything. It was all for him... everything that I had sacrificed and given up was for HIM. The wedding, the dress, the location, the flowers right down to the ring itself. Was because he was falling short of what he was supposed to be. What OUR marriage was supposed to be. And I just let it happen. Because I didn't want to believe I was making any mistakes.
I've always been very truthful in my blogs. So I'm not going to change that now. Please understand this is just an explanation of my journey to where I am now. Which is happy ... Trully HAPPEEEEEE
So lets not give that rat bastard more than he deserves. He cheated on me not once but twice. Gave me a fake ring....no wedding... Any questions as to why I left??? Didn't think so. I gave him everything I had, and what I didnt have he took. He took my shine, my sparkle my love and turned me into a pissed off, insecure crybaby. What the hell??? Thats not me. Never has been. So Why??? WHY STAY? I couldn't. If I was to ever be myself I had to go. I miss Christian so much poor lil guy. But, you can only be told so many times you aren't his mother. Your input doesn't matter. Well then you lower than whale shit son of a bitch, you tell him thats why you cheated and lied. You tell him thats why his Brandie is gone. Fucking fuck. Grrrr.
Throughout my 6 year hiatus from my real self. I kept in touch with my extended family out in South Dakota. Loved them. Missed them. Wished things had turned out differently. But I was married now and that life was just a distant dream. But we remained friends. Nick remained the person I could turn to when I needed absolute support. A shoulder. A rock. Wait a second.....shouldn't my husband have done that??? Oh yeah he was too busy smoking pot or fucking around with an 18 year old. Fast forward to January 2012 I get the most horrific call ever. My extended Dad has passed away. :'( Huh? I dont get to say goodbye. I dont even find out until 2 days later because dumbfuck is to insecure for me to take a call. I cried and cried. Alone. Wishing for arms that were 1700 miles away. I talked to Nick while he worked through his grief. I talked to his mother and sent her notes. Sent her flowers. I sent them love as very best as I could from so far away. So very far.
Low and behold dumbfuck starts acting wierd again. Hmmmm...tell tell signs of infidelity. That damn cell phone never left his pocket. He'd sleep with it in his pocket!!!! Do you really think I'm that naive? So I just waited....knowing he'd slip. And he did. Only this time he laid it all out. So I did too.
Actually I just let God lead me. I have never been so lost. Had no idea what to do witht the mess I called life. So I just threw up my hands and said OK!!!!! I'm obviously not doing what I'm supposed to be. You drive. You show me. God did...
It was so hard to take that first step. To say I AM LEAVING. But once I did. The physical part was easy. It was complete and true mental breakdown emotionally. I cried and questioned myself was I trully doing the right thing. I mean the plan was so off the chart. I am virtually leaving my entire life behind. My job. Oh man. Each time I asked Chris are we doing the right thing. He'd just sqy. "Go be happy, you deserve more than me." True dat Mofo... But it still killed me that someone that completely destroyed me. Would even have the heart to say that.
In the mean time, Nick and his Mom are preparing my new life for me. We've got you a home, a phone and you can start school in September. Huh? I just get to leave my sad horrible marriage. And walk back into my old beautiful life ??? It's just that easy???? Ok then, thank you Lord for leading me. Amen.
There is so much more to be told. More side stories of my journey to SoDak. Yes I drove here from NC. Wha????? Yes best time I've ever spent alone! Sadly there trully is not a lot of juice where my ex-husband is concerned. He simply let me walk out of his life. But thankfully, I walked out of his....and into MINE.